Mastery: The One Strategy To Overcoming Fear

Issue No. 7 | February 13th, 2023 | Read Time: 3 Minutes

Happy Monday Everyone!

What is the ultimate deciding factor that prevents us from reaching our goals? Is it procrastination? Our friends and family? Money? All of these can be directed back to one thing:

FEAR

.

We don't procrastinate because we're lazy, we procrastinate because we're

afraid

of the change that might arise if we do the work that's required.

We don't go after our goals because we're

afraid

of what our friends and family might think if we accomplish them.

And we don't have money because subconsciously we're

afraid

of what money will turn us into, as well as the fear of losing what we've worked so hard to gain. 

How can we overcome this? I believe the best strategy you can adopt to master your fears is

acceptance

.

In Dale Carnegies book

How To Stop Worrying And Start Living

, he talks about how acceptance is the "magic formula" for overcoming fear and worry.

"When you accept the worst you have nothing more to lose. Which automatically means you have everything to gain!"

Acceptance can be broken up into 3 steps. First, you need to honestly ask yourself "what is the worst that can possibly happen?" Don't exaggerate the outcome and genuinely clarify a realistic event. Once you've acknowledge the worst possible outcome, the second step is to accept it. Then finally, calmly proceed to improve upon the worst.So let's say you're afraid of what your friends and family will think. What's the worst that can happen? They'll laugh? Criticize you? Make fun of you? Realize that these outcomes don't result in death or your inability to succeed in life.Therefore, accept the worst by understanding that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment and proceed to improve upon the worst. And a lot of times, that outcome will never come to see the light of day. Our mind is powerful and tends to think about the worst in an effort to prepare us, when all it does is consume us to the point of paralyzation. Remember this acronym:F - FalseE - EvidenceA - AppearingR - RealSo understand that fear is merely a fabrication of what we believe is going to happen. Don't let a lie stop you from living a life that is true to exist. And if your fears still have a tight grasp on your conscious, than learn to accept the worst so you can move forward with the mindset that you now have everything to gain.  

Until next time,

Isaiah Taylor

Dive Deeper

What I'm Currently Reading -

I'm now in the middle of reading

The Travelers Gift

by Andy Andrews, a fictional book that revolves around the story of a man who's lost all hope in his ability to succeed and is chosen to travel through time to speak to some of the most influential people in existence with the goal to give him the gift of a new way of looking at his life.  

• If you'd like to see my notes pertaining to any of the books I have previously read, then check out my websiteisaiahctaylor.comto view my entire library of notes and summaries.

Recent Article I'd Recommend

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Successful People Tell Themselves These 7 Things on a Daily Basis

by Nicolas Cole is a great read on the mindset of successful people and how they persist beyond their own obstacles. 

Quote Of The Week

• "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." — Nelson Mandela